Emotions & People

I often wonder why we make the decisions we do in life. Like really...Half of the things that we decide are stupid at the time. We follow our emotions no matter where they take us. Emotions are what run us, what drive us, what inspire us. Without emotions we wouldn't be humans. That's what seperates us from machines our ability to make decisions our emotions and our thoughts. When we use the phrase "follow your heart" it is just an emotion that is linked to the brain that gives us another decision to make. Our heart doesn't have a mind. It creates/causes emotions in which our mind processes and then we make a decision based on that. So, when we say we don't think about a decision in essence we do. Because no action excuted is unthought about. We say we get caught up in the moment, but we don't we get caught up in the emotions of that moment. Whether it be passion, pleasure, desire, anger, or love. Every action we have rationalized before and after. Sometimes we rationalize it afterwards and regret it because our emotions have calmed. But before our emotions have calmed we have already rationalized it in a sense.

That's why it is hard for some people to forgive. Because whatever someone did to them it evoked an emotion from them usually of hurt, anger, or disappointment. Think about it we don't apologize or forgive people for doing something that made us happy. We forgive people for doing something that hurt us. And sometimes we are hurt so much that we can't let go of what someone did. We have to remember that one action does not define us as a person. And for us who are guilt ridden about being forgiven. You have to apologize and ask the person for forgiveness and learn from that mistake and don't repeat it. If you are constantly repeating the same mistake then you are not learning. And for those who can't and don't forgive. Why hold on to something someone has done to you. Why not forgive? You may never forget but you can forgive. Why walk around holding unrepressed feelings about what someone did to you? I forgive easily because I know I make mistakes and I would want a person to forgive me if I did something wrong. We always want people to forgive us if we hurt them but we don't want to forgive those who hurt us. That's not how it should be. We tend to forgive our friends easier than the people we are in relationships with. Think about the friends you have had for years, haven't they committed a wrong against you and haven't you forgiven them. So, why can't we forgive the ones we are in relationships with? Some friendships last longer than marriages because we are so quick to forgive friends. Why not forgive equally? I'm not saying let someone run over you and treat you any kind of way but forgive them. They are human, they make mistakes.

Women typically have a bestfriend that is their go to person. And us women sometimes don't know how to handle having a partner and a bestfriend. Some when they get in a relationship ignore our bestfriends or we still give them the same respect they got before we entered into a relationship. Now, this is tricky how to balance friendships/relationships. Because most people think that well this relationship might not last and my friend will be here forever. What kind of way is that to go into a relationship? That's not positive thinking. We don't enter friendships thinking that this isn't going to last. Really though...When you have a significant other cut out time for both your friend and your partner. Sometimes when you're out with your friends tell your significant other i'm going out with my friends to hang out and you leave that person at home. Sometimes you go out with your significant other for quality time and leave the friend at home or don't call them and text on the phone like we tend to do. And sometimes it can intertwine but make sure that they both feel appreciated. Because when it comes time to spend the rest of your life with eventually your significant other and family will take precendence over your friend and your friend should be able to understand that as well as you. You can still have time for both but its different. And don't tell your friends all your dirty laundry about your relationships because 9 times out of 10 you're not going to tell them all the good stuff they have done you are going to tell them mostly bad. And we get mad when our friends or family like the ones we are dating. It's because you've told them all the bad. So, why should they like them? Try telling them the good too. And try when you're telling them about the arguement to convey both sides. We know in an arguement if we are wrong or right or equally to blame as the other person.

Every relationship ends up at a point when it gets hard, when you either fight or take flight. That's when you have to make the decision not based on what others think but based on how you feel. If the person has made you happy before figure out whats wrong and try to get back to that point. Take responsibility for your actions and don't blame it all on the other person. Be real and talk. That's why relationships fail friendships and relationships the lack of communication. How do you expect people to know what you are thinking or feeling if you don't talk. And if someone is telling you something for constructive criticsm most likely you've heard it before so don't get angry about it. Sit down reflect on it and try and change and grow. We have to grow and mature and if we don't whats the point in something being called a mistake if you don't learn from it and try and fix it.

Illusion

You know we often times take a "step back" from situations and we end up making a decision based on a series of events. Why is it do we think that giving us space from a situation causes us to make what we perceive as rational decisions. This is when are the most comfortable making decisions when we are in a calm state. So that we can weigh the pros & cons of each possible outcome. We think of the good and bad for each decision. It is when we consider the decision that we can live with and rationalize the reason for our decisions. It is these rationalizations that we cling to at night, that help us keep going day to day, minute to minute, second to second. Sometimes this is an affirmation for us and can either lead to our own's misery or happiness. So, is it true then that those who are not a happy person, is it because its the easiest emotion for them to rationalize. That rationalization that gets them from day to day, minute to minute, second to second. So in theory I would say that it really is mind of matter. If you are positive thinker then more positive things will happen to because that is the easiest thing for you to rationalize. They say that bad habits are hard to break because its as equally mentally dependent as it is physical. My philosophy is that if you think that something will happen and you're persistant about that then eventually it will come to light. You have to mentally want something as much as you do physically. Physical in the sense as of carrying out the series of events that your mind has placed in action(i.e. walking to the store to pick up computer paper for your business draft)

MY POV: Why we are the way we are?

This is my theory on why we are the way we are. It is because of our cultural environments. You might say wow..what a concept?(in a condenscening way...of course)We either want to be like the ones we were surrounded by as we grew up or either they are driving to be the opposite. We subconsciously know whether or not we want to fit in the mold of our loved ones or either we don't because of the ideals we have seen growing up. We make the choice to be either as good, worse, better, or the same as the people in our life. People who are always called a screw-up sooner or later they believe that they are. People who are considered to be an achiever place pressure themselves more so to achieve, and then there are they few who have bad luck or good luck, that intefer in their destiny. Yes, destiny for we hold in our hands the choices we make and each have a place to fill in life. Somehow our mere existence in intertwined by even the smallest players in our life. For someone we walk past on the street we have played to a moment that led to a huge moment that affected their lives in either a better/worse way.

There I figure are five divisions of people's personality and pre-determination of where they end up in life. You have of course the over achievers, the slackers, good luck, bad luck, mediocore. Of course all of these classifications come by the inconsequtial things like the material things we own, our shell(physical apperance), the jobs we have, where we live, and so forth. We often don't take time to look beyond the suits and clothes that bind us. For me get so caught up in what people have, what car they drive, where they live, work, vacation. We never take the time to get to know the inner person. If they don't meet a certain expectation that who places on us, society? If they look different then people ask you why are you with them? When our shell has nothing to do with the beauty of a persons heart and soul. A beauty of a persons mind. These two are independent features of one another. So why does beauty and appearance hold such weight in our society. Why do we confine ourself to mundane things as such. Beauty that resoinates through every part of a person, mentally, spiritually, & lastly someone that appeals to my highly commericalized outview on beauty is someone that is beauty. Someone that goes beyond beauty.

People need to stop confining to these five groups of people (imo) and putting everyone in a box and allow for the freedom that America is known for. We as a people have the freedom to do anything but at what cost when truly every freedom has a price. When us Americans kill everyday because of what was a result of people using one of their freedoms. What they were told that they have a right to since they were in the womb. Now, don't get me wrong I love being an American and the intent which it is based upon. However, I believe there is some room for improvement, which is important because without improvement then we will stay stagnant and before long we will begin a decline.

To wrap it up... Everyone is just a person and should be free to be their own person without the baggage of their environment, and you can'talways judge a book by it's cover beauty is only skin deep and shouldn't hold any relevance to the word beauty because. Beauty should be through and through.

I think i kind of just went off on a tangent lol. Sorry. Hope you Enjoy!


*TrAc*